Physical Appearance VS PersonalityOctober 3, 2009
The article shows how important physical appearance is and people who are generally better looking will tend to have more advantages. The article also discusses about the societal prejudices and conformity to societal norms.
Nowadays, we have unknowingly placed much emphasis on our looks. The increased emphasis on having good looks can be due to mass media, peer influence and even societal conformity. Many tend to overlook that character is vital in establishing relationships and are pursuing beauty blindly. I think that while good looks can have positive impact on relational formation, it cannot be the sole factor that determines a person’s societal status.
Firstly, I agree that looks can exert a positive impact on relational formation as it allows one to have the confidence to communicate and hence, establish relationships with others. Physical appearance can have the biggest impact in the early stage of a relationship as both parties based their judgment on looks. It also determines whether a relationship can be formed. Someone who is better looking will be able to form a relationship faster than their counterparts as the first impression they give is stronger. According to the article, there is a correlation between self esteem and personality. This means that good looks can possibly lead to one’s increase in self esteem and in turn affect personality. Thus, the impact of looks is far reaching than it seems.
Good physical attributes can allow one to be socially accepted and provide one with more opportunities to interact with others. The reason for the increasing number of people going for plastic surgery has shown that people view good physical attributes as a prerequisite to be socially accepted. People tend to conform to the societal standard of beauty in order not to be discriminated and isolated. It is evident that people who are considered ugly will be discriminated upon; as, children start to pick whom they will like as playmates according to facial attractiveness. They have the tendency to form relationship with someone similar to them. Children who are less attractive would naturally have little or no playmates. This phenomenon is apparent in children and this goes to show that conformity to society is unanimous.
Despite acknowledging the fact that looks can have great impact on one socially, I think that personality is equally important. While looks can determine whether a relationship can be formed at the early stage, personality ultimately decides if the relationship can be maintained in the long run. In addition, even if one manages to become more beautiful, the personality remains the same. Personality is something that is rather permanent and cannot be changed overnight. The obsession in pursuing beauty to conform to societal standard of beauty can cause people to neglect their personality and even lose their identity. For example, many people go for plastic surgery to look like their favourite celebrity. At the end of the day, they are just one of the celebrity look-alikes and exhibit no individualism.
In conclusion, I think that both looks and personality are equally important and people should try to achieve a balance between them. While there are certain standards for us to conform to, we have the power to decide if it is reasonable and if there is a need to do so.